Problems with dating a separated man
They're seen as a life-style choice; an option for men and women yearning for excitement or intimacy that's lacking or has dulled during their marriage.Given that new reality, I put together what I've learned about psychology of affairs -- their meaning and their consequences for people in our current culture. We ended up in bed, as well as a lot of other places! The liberating and compelling feeling from this kind of affair, though, can mask hidden emotional conflicts.He and his wife's sister finally had sex after years of mutual, erotic teasing.Suddenly they were in the midst of an affair that neither wanted to end.Eventually, she realized that beneath her anger was a desire for a man who would really recognize her, who could "see" her, as her father never did.But before that awakening occurred, she suffered, and she still had to deal with the reality of her marriage and how to heal her own trauma. Can you call it an affair if the "lovers" don't have sex? They became very close working together on a volunteer project.
She subsequently discovered that the man was only interested in a narcissistic conquest, and he quickly dumped her.With Tiger Woods back in the game after his "bad decisions" admission on ESPN, I couldn't help but recall George (not his real name), who had consulted me about how to deal with his new affair.Visions of Woods, Jessie James, Mark Sanford, John Edwards and others came to mind -- along with the similar stories of countless patients over the years.Paul was married, and Linda was divorced but living with a boyfriend.They found they had much in common -- a similar outlook on life and a spiritual compatibility as well.